Question: How do we balance Deen and Dunya? In dunya we have our work, our wives and children. How do we strike a balance?
Answer: Our Deen does not tell us to shun society and live in caves. On the contrary, our deen tells us that we have to be models in society; we have to be good to our spouses and to our children and we have to build relationships of love. In fact our deen thrives on relationships of sanctified love.
The balance is this: a person must weigh every action against the shariah and sunnah. The action is allowed if sanctioned by shariah and sunnah, but should be shunned if not. If a person weighs every action this way then there will be peace both in this life and in the Hereafter.
Hadith says that Allah subhanahu wa'tala grants honor and success to whoever honors His commandments, and contrarily dishonors and ruins one who does not. There is no joy, but only sadness and worry in the life of one who rebels against Allah subhanahu wa'tala.
Neither with luxury, wealth, nor home, Hearts find tranquility in naught but in the remembrance of Allah.
Allah subhanahu wa'tala helps those who submit to Him. Hadith Qudsi says that there is the Will of Allah subhanahu wa'tala, and then there is our will. If we wish our will be done, then Allah subhanahu wa'tala will not only exhaust us in the earth but also never allow our will to be fulfilled. However, if we will that Allah subhanahu wa'tala's Will be done, then Allah will not only grant us success in life but also make sure that our wishes are fulfilled.
[Question and Answer Session with Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad (damat barakatuhum)