Aa’ishah (RadiyAllahu Anha) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Sallellahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:
"When Allah – may He be glorified – wills some good towards the people of a household, He introduces kindness among them."
(Reported by Imaam Ahmad in "al-Musnad", 6/71; "Saheeh al-Jaami’", 303).
Each individual has a unique identity and individuality that deserves to be respected. Giving time to listen to each other and helping solve problems in the light of Islam will make a household more conducive for productive problem solving.
On the contrary, a home filled with frequent argumentation, disputes, and quarrels will only foster bad feelings and is something that stands counter to the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah.
Let’s remember that the prophet (Sallellahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) associated an argumentative and disputing attitude with misguidance. He said, "“A nation never went astray after being guided except by means of disputation"
(Tirmidhi #3253 and ibn Majah #48 on the authority of Abu Umamah)
In this context, we should also exercise the use of our tongues with great care. The Prophet (Sallellahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:
"Blessed is the one who controls his tongue…”"
Family members should also uphold each other’s trust and ensure that family matters stay private unless there is a specific need to share it with others. This especially pertains to spousal issues and matters.
The prophet (Sallellahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:
"One of the most evil of people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who went in unto his wife and she went in unto him, then he (she) disclosed her (or his) secret."
(Reported by Muslim, 4/157).
There are other ahadith that clearly and strictly warn the spouses (likening them to devils) when they let others in their very private matters.
May Allah Keep Our Families Under His Guidance And Protection.