All fights, no studies at schools

Hyderabad: Fights are happening more and more at schools across the city and Tolichowki is no exception. July 16 incident where Md Ibrahim, first standard student of Promising Scholars school in Tolichowki, who suffered injuries on his private parts after he was allegedly attacked to death by a third standard student of the same school, jogs our memory of a similar incident where KS Harshavardhan Rao, 19, a BCom second year student was punched to death by his senior at Pragathi Mahavidyalaya, Koti in November 2014.

Both the incidents took place on the school campuses over petty issues show not only gross negligence on the part of school authorities to have allowed students resorting to such deadly brawls but also exhibits aggressive child behaviour. School campuses are turning more into battlefields where everything is happening except studies. “These types of incidents revolve around peer pressure, studies, Internet exposure, using unacceptable words or issues involving boyfriends and girlfriends.

Schools and colleges must have an in-house counsellor to reach out to students in crisis management,” a city-based special educator Ameen said. Studies have also shown that the long-term effects of parental withdrawal are actually more disturbing to kids.

“To change the negative and aggressive pattern of behaviour in children, it is necessary for the parents to replace the aggressive and abusive acting out behaviours with healthier and more appropriate ways of solving the problem,” Balala Hakkula Sangham president Anuradha Rao said adding that child’s aggression should be addressed appropriately.

Meanwhile doctors found that many children have difficulties solving social problems and say that this often leads to aggressive behaviour.

“A social problem can be anything from learning how to get food when you’re hungry, to sharing toys, to responding appropriately when an adult says “no,” to drugs or booze,” they said.

Psychologists define three types of fighting

•Oppositional and defiant fighting: These are kids who fight and don’t even know why. And the more we try to explore the “why” with them, the more they act defiantly.

•Verbal abuse and temper tantrums: Kids often fight by being verbally abusive; that’s how they strike out at others

•Angry and antagonistic behaviour: Sometimes kids get angry or antagonised by another child and hit them. Or two or more kids will have an argument that escalates until they come to blows.

 

Courtesy: MetroIndia